A mentoring relationship should be rewarding for both sides. If only the mentee is getting something out of the relationship, chances are the mentor will soon opt out.

It’s common for mentees to think that they have nothing to give back to their mentor. That simply isn’t true. Though you might not be able to give back in a monetary way, the fact is most mentors aren’t in it for the money.

So how can a mentee give back to a mentor?

==> Gratitude

At the most simple level, mentors want to feel good about the fact that they’re making a difference in your life.

Let your mentor(s) know how they’ve made a difference in your life. Be specific. Let them know how your life would have turned out if it wasn’t for them.

After every meeting with you, your mentors should walk away feeling like they did a great thing. This feeling is why many mentors give a helping hand.

==> Public Mentions

Another way you can give back to your mentors is through public mentions. As you and your company become more successful, you’ll have the opportunity to speak in public or be written about in public.

When that happens, go out of your way to mention your mentor(s). This will help them build up their name and also gives them a sense that you truly do appreciate what they do for you.

If you read books by successful people, you’ll find that they often acknowledge their mentors and influencers by name. They’ll do this not just in the “acknowledgements,” but in the core of the book itself.

Find places to mention your mentors in public and they’ll love you for it.

==> Being Successful

Finally, the ultimate way to say “thank you” to a mentor is to be extraordinarily successful. Mentors want to know that they made a difference and that their contribution helped you hit your goals.

Mentors want to make a difference in the world. If you go from starting a brand new business to being a successful entrepreneur thanks to your mentors, they’ll feel very fulfilled. They’ll be glad they took you on.

==> Giving Back to Mentors

Though mentees usually can’t give back to their mentors in financial ways, you’ll often be able to give back to mentors in emotional ways.

Make sure mentors feel good about helping you out. Make sure they walk away from your meetings glowing. Make sure that they’re better off having spent time with you than if they hadn’t.

Don’t view your mentorship relationships as you taking something from them. View it as a mutual relationship, where they want to make a difference and you’re their conduit. They’re making a difference in your life and your business and in return, they get a wide range of emotional benefits.

We’ve all heard that having business mentors can help you develop yourself and grow your company. But what is it exactly that these mentors can do for you? How can they help you move your company along?

Knowing exactly how you want your mentors to help you move forward can help you find the motivation to find these mentors, as well as give you the fire you need to ask your potential mentors for help in a compelling way.

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There are mentors, then there are “dream list” mentors. Dream list mentors are the mentors you’d pick if you could choose any mentors on the planet. Landing these kinds of “dream list” mentors takes audacity and connections. But it’s certainly doable.

==> How Facebook Landed Bill Gates

When Facebook was still in its infancy with just a few million members, Mark Zuckerberg decided he wanted to make it a platform. He wanted developers to be able to build apps on the platform.

He asked one of his mentors if he could put him in touch with others who’ve developed platforms. His mentor said he might be able to put him in touch with some developers who’ve built a platform in the past.

Zuckerberg said: “I was thinking more along the lines of Bill Gates.”

His mentor scoffed at him. Here he was, running a startup social network with far less traffic than MySpace and he wanted Bill Gates to teach him how to build a platform?

The next day, his mentor walked in. Zuckerberg said “I talked to him.” “Who?” “Bill gates.”

He just called him up and asked.

==> Be Realistic vs. Be Audacious

The world of business is littered with examples like this. The most successful people in the world are much more accessible than you’d think. Successful people had mentors themselves and often want to give back.

You probably don’t want to approach these kinds of mentors until you’ve got some traction. You want your business to be running moderately successfully already. These mentors should help you get to the next level, not help you get your business off the ground.

==> Start With Your Top 10

Write a list of your top 10 dream mentors. These should be the mentors you’d pick if you could choose any mentors on the planet.

Once you’ve written these 10, write out who you know that might know them or know someone who knows them. Make sure to include investors, lawyers and current mentors.

Also write out a list of 10 people who’re “close” to your current network that you might be able to reach out to. For example, perhaps the person who owns the building you work out of is a multi-millionaire and could teach you a lot. You might want to put him on your list.

==> Be Audacious in Making Contact

Be audacious in making contact with potential mentors. Successful people respect audacity. Don’t assume that just because they’re more successful they won’t give you the time of day. Remember: You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Actively seek out mentors that can help take you to the next level, even if they seem unattainable. If you reach out to 10 such mentors, there’s a very good chance you’ll land a couple.